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Friday, May 18, 2012

The Real Source of a Winning Attitude

Are you active in any sports or other competition? Do you win more than you lose? Would you keep playing if you always lost? (Serendipity Bible 10th Anniversary Edition, p.572).

Loving parents strive to instill a winning attitude and spirit in their children. It is inconceivable that a loving parent would wish to instill the opposite – a losing attitude. That is almost the definition of love – to make a loved one not only feel like but be a winner. We want to build up the ones we love, not tear them down. Lucky is the person who has been so raised in childhood that he develops this spirit. It is highly important that one be so constituted that they refuse to let themselves be defined by the occasional failure or setback. Optimally, a failure or setback is simply a stimulus to move forward. This stance relies on a deep indelible belief that failure is not in any way characteristic of me. From whence does this belief arise.

It is completely possible for parents to raise their children in a constructive way without also teaching that cutthroat competition is necessary to establish a winning spirit. It would be lunacy for parents to decide that constant and strident competition between siblings would result in a positive, flourishing atmosphere. In fact we come upon a striking conclusion – a winning spirit does not depend upon competition at all, but upon being the undeserving recipient of generosity and kindness. It is surely shortsighted and wrong-headed for people so luckily raised to conclude that they alone are responsible through wars of competition for developing a triumphant winning spirit. In fact they owe their winning attitude to the very opposite – an atmosphere of love and generosity in which they were made to feel special just for who they are quite apart from any concept of just deserts. The believe that competition is the source of a winning attitude is ill-founded.

Competition in biology, ecology and sociology is a contest between organisms, animals, individuals, groups, etc. for territory, a niche, or a location of resources, for resources and goods, for prestige, recognition and awards, for mates and group or social status, for leadership; it is the opposite of cooperation. It arises whenever at least two parties strive for a goal which cannot be shared or which is desired individually but not in sharing and cooperation. Competition occurs naturally between living organisms which co-exist in the same environment. For example, animals compete over water supplies, food, mates, and other biological resources. Humans compete usually for food and mates, though when these needs are met deep rivalries often arise over the pursuit of wealth, prestige, and fame. Competition is also a major tenet in market economy and business is often associated with competition as most companies are in competition with at least one other firm over the same group of customers, and also competition inside a company is usually stimulated for meeting and reaching higher quality of services or products that the company produce or develop.

Cooperation or co-operation is the process of working or acting together. In its simplest form it involves things working in harmony, side by side, while in its more complicated forms, it can involve something as complex as the inner workings of a human being or even the social patterns of a nation. It is the alternative to working separately in competition. Cooperation can also be accomplished by computers, which can handle shared resources simultaneously, while sharing processor time.

Winner: Champion, the victor in a challenge or contest.

Loser: A person who fails to win.

[Definitions from: Wikipedia]

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