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Wednesday, February 27, 2013

I Beg to Differ

English Standard Version (©2001)
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

New International Version (©1984)
[Love] always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

The Message
[Love] Always looks for the best,/ Never looks back,/
But keeps going to the end.

[Love] rejoices in the happiness and virtue of others, and will not believe the contrary except on irrefragable evidence. (Barnes' Notes on the Bible:

One of the most insidious underminers of the concept of love is when love is equated with credulity in its most abject and ridiculous form--when irrefragable evidence standing tall as a 10 foot fact must be ignored due to wildly unlimited "love" demands. One should not underestimate the pressures that can arise when a loved one asks "Whose side are you on anyway?" The answer must always be that I'm on your side; but this cannot mean I am thereby obligated to throw out all shreds of responsibility, discernment, and honesty--that I must in the end abandon all traces of intelligence. Manipulative people often tend to engage others on a guilt trip--especially when it is known that the others aver love--even Christian love. The manipulators well know that their mark takes love seriously--even of utmost and final importance and view it in ethical terms. The first and favorite charge thrown at their mark is "you're a hypocrite....(if you don't see and do things precisely my way)." Such attempted manipulation of those who love is a cheap and easy stratagem to gain the upper hand and with it complete control at the total expense of those manipulated and of truth itself.

Those who love must out of principle resist such blackmail. They must do this not only to retain self-respect, but also out of a sense of obligation to maintain the integrity of the concept of love and the standards of human interaction.

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