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Saturday, January 12, 2013

Finding Yourself or Defining Yourself?

How does the Lord communicate with you: are his plans for you always clear, sometimes clear or never clear? What role does Scripture play? What about advice, hunches, prayer, circumstances? (Serendipity Bible 10th Anniversary Edition page 1057).

As a freshman at the University South Florida I read Catcher in the Rye. Holden Caulfield was kind of a hero for us – someone who (like many of us) was striving to find himself. Now looking back I see that the key exercise would prove not to be finding oneself, but rather that of defining oneself. Finding oneself implies that there is an internal coherency already in existence that simply needs to be uncovered. The more that I tried to search out my innermost being, the more I realized that it lacked any sort of coherent structure. It was something of a mishmash. To define myself required externalities . These become tools by which to sculpt a tenable structure. Navelgazing it turns out simply doesn't get you there; while life experiences and extensive reading of literature, philosophy, Scripture and the witnessing of others opens up alternative realities from which to choose those that are most rock solid. 

A recent blog I highly recommend was written by my boss's wife.  The essay illustrates someone who has achieved a high level of definition. She writes “In order to grow you have to learn, and in order to learn you have to make mistakes.... I'm sorry but that is just the harsh reality of life. Own it, fix it, learn from it. That is my motto.” You can read the entire blog here:

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